Before 50 and Now

Life is so much different now than before 50. I feel the same (thank God) as when I was probably 20, much like when my kids were about 7 they thought they were 17 (in their cute little heads). My whole style of living changed after having children, and watching them grow into people needing to be trained for the world in front of them. Now, I need to not only talk with them, I must be an example. Before, in my 40s even, I had children and wanted to show them, lay the foundation, but now the rubber meets the road. I must be an example. In teaching them and homeschooling them, for example, NOW I need to show them how to plan what they need to accomplish and prioritize, guiding them so that they can see how to do this on their own. It's no longer changing diapers, it's not 1 plus 1 either. A great joy to teach them to read and all of these milestones, but now it is a different process. For me, it's life before 50 and life after 50.

My own life before 50 was fraught with the typical last minute thinking, inability to prioritize and many poor choices. I like to think I still turned out okay, and my children will be free to make mistakes as well, but hopefully the foundation is laid and some poor choices can be avoided; however, I need to be practicing their foundation as they watch me. I cannot be the person in my 20s and leave everything until the last minute with no goals or vision in mind while telling them to have goals and priorities. I was well known to pull many all-nighters in college before papers and exams. I may be blessed to feel physically well enough to pull that off, but I'm hoping my children will outdo me in that area. Working, blogging, homeschooling, being a wife and mom to teens who need to share and be involved also; life after 50. I do not have the luxury to behave as I did before, especially in the unorganized manner. I would have it no other way. Our children may be quiet, maybe not; however, they are watching. Prepare them well.

5 comments:

Nancy said...

I understand how you feel, and am in a similar position. I do not home shcool my children, but it is very hard these days!
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Brenda said...

I am still getting used to being in my forties, although I think turning thirty was much harder for me. My attitude has always been that age is just a number, but the number thirty was hard for me.I found your blog on the WED hop and dropped by to become your newest GFC follower. Have a fantastic week!
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Rebecca said...

So true...teaching our children to set goals, have priorities and find God's purpose for them...minute by minute and day by day (for me...) is important!

Susanna Carbajal said...

Great post. It's so true how we all need to lead by example and to set our goals and perusing them is the best feeling ever!! Thanks so much for sharing and look forward to coming back to read your next post! Stay in touch, to your health and success!!

Susanna Carbajal said...

Great post and leading by example to our kids and our peers is very rewarding. It's not easy but we can reach it as long as we believe in what we're doing!! Thanks and hope to be back soon! To your health and success.